My youngest went to her father’s house overnight last night. I know, you’re thinking, “But today is mother’s day” and you’d be right. Considering this is the 1st time he’s asked for her in the last almost 6 months I said yes. He dropped her off a little bit ago and was telling me that his ex-wife from his 1st marriage called him a dead beat dad and he disagreed with her. As much as I don’t like her and how she handles anything, I would have to agree with her on this one. He hasn’t seen any of his kids for at least 5 months (except for his newest one that lives with him and wife #4), he moved about every 3-6 months, he changes jobs just about as much as he moves, when I call or text him to talk to our child about her behavior his exact words are, “What do you want me to do about it?”. He pays his child support so sporadically that I don’t even count it as income anymore. When he actually does pay it I put it away for our daughter. I’ve done this for the last 1-1 1/2 years and she just now got $190 in her account. So yeah, I agree with wife #1.
My other child’s father used to be this way but luckily he’s grown up some and started taking responsibility. He doesn’t see her, ever and that really upsets me because I know it bothers our daughter even though she won’t admit it more than the one time she did about a year ago.
I wish that I could make everything better with their father’s but I can’t make them act like men, that choice is up to them.
Word of wisdom to those out there, make sure that you are willing to deal with someone for the rest of your life because if you have children with them that’s how long you’ll have to deal with them. Parenting doesn’t stop just because the child turns 18. Good luck to you my friends.