The oldest child’s graduation party

Today was my baby’s grad party. It got off to kind of a rocky start. I wanted to be at the venue by 9 am but didn’t get there until 9:45 and the party was suppose to start at 10 so I sent out a facebook message on the event page explaining the delay and asking everyone that was invited through facebook if they would please wait until 11 to come. Luckily my uncle and his girl friend showed up on time so they helped me set everything up. My daughter and her boyfriend helped also which was amazing. I am so grateful for all the help that they helped put into this event when they didn’t have to.

While setting up I realized that the balloon arrangement that I had ordered 3 months ago was no where to be seen so I asked the people at the venue if the arrangements had been sent to another room. Ended up calling the balloon place. Turns out that the guy that made the arrangement had a family emergency and forgot that they needed to be delivered today by 9 am. Got them to deliver them around 12:30 (event went until 2 so I wasn’t really upset, just happy they got there). The lady was so nice and set them up for us. If you can picture it I’ll try to explain them to you. Dark blue and white balloons spiraling upwards where they meet a large (about 2 feet by 2 feet) white balloon that has more dark blue balloons inside of the large white balloon. It was such a beautiful arrangement.

I got catering from my job so we picked that up this morning and the ladies did an amazing job getting all that together and looking beautiful. There were so many things that I had gotten for the party that I couldn’t find and that made me upset but it all worked out quite well. One thing in particular were these cute little caulk board things that I was going to write the different sandwich meats on and put next to those sandwiches that correlated with it but couldn’t remember where I put them. It all worked out amazingly though. There was so much food left over (a lot of people that RSVP’d never showed up) so I was able to send some food home with my sister to help feed her and her husband because they’re having a difficult time lately. I had bought so much soda but could only find about 5 2-liters so I bought more (forgetting I had already bought a lot). Unloading my daughter’s car I found them so we had massive amounts of soda to give away and bring home.

After a little bit of drama my daughter’s father and his girlfriend showed up. Basically, he (Bob) said he couldn’t come because his girlfriends’ mom (Barbara) was in the hospital. After her sister (Amanda), brother-in-law (Andy), and niece (Andrea) showed up we found out that Barbara has been in the hospital since Tuesday, it’s now Saturday, and that Andy had called Bob’s girlfriend asking where she was she said she was on the way to the hospital to visit Barbara. Said Bob was at home. Andy then asked why she couldn’t drop Bob off at the venue to his daughter’s graduation party since it was on the way to the hospital. Long story short, she got angry with him and hung up. Shortly after that, they showed up. This is the only school function that he has ever gone to. When asked why he didn’t go to her actual graduation he had said it was because he wasn’t invited. She invited him on several occasions and even reminded him about it and all he did was come up with lame excuses on why he didn’t go. I wish that she had a father that was there for her, cared about her and truly loved and supported her. I understand that she wants his love and attention but sometimes I wish, for her mental health, that she would just cut ties with him. She’s always the one reaching out to him so it wouldn’t be difficult but what ever her choice is, I will support her 100%.

My goodness, this is really long. Sorry, I didn’t mean to make it this long.

Hope y’all made it a great day. I sure know I did. Long and tiring, but great.

Christian

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The other parent

My youngest went to her father’s house overnight last night. I know, you’re thinking, “But today is mother’s day” and you’d be right. Considering this is the 1st time he’s asked for her in the last almost 6 months I said yes. He dropped her off a little bit ago and was telling me that his ex-wife from his 1st marriage called him a dead beat dad and he disagreed with her. As much as I don’t like her and how she handles anything, I would have to agree with her on this one. He hasn’t seen any of his kids for at least 5 months (except for his newest one that lives with him and wife #4), he moved about every 3-6 months, he changes jobs just about as much as he moves, when I call or text him to talk to our child about her behavior his exact words are, “What do you want me to do about it?”. He pays his child support so sporadically that I don’t even count it as income anymore. When he actually does pay it I put it away for our daughter. I’ve done this for the last 1-1 1/2 years and she just now got $190 in her account. So yeah, I agree with wife #1.

My other child’s father used to be this way but luckily he’s grown up some and started taking responsibility. He doesn’t see her, ever and that really upsets me because I know it bothers our daughter even though she won’t admit it more than the one time she did about a year ago.

I wish that I could make everything better with their father’s but I can’t make them act like men, that choice is up to them.

Word of wisdom to those out there, make sure that you are willing to deal with someone for the rest of your life because if you have children with them that’s how long you’ll have to deal with them. Parenting doesn’t stop just because the child turns 18. Good luck to you my friends.

Christian

My youngest child’s father

My ex-husband does not know how kids are made apparently. I say that because is wife (girlfriend at the time) didn’t realize that she was pregnant with their daughter (she is now 2) until she was something like 6 months along. I don’t care that they had a child I was just upset because he barely pays child support for the 3 that he already had and I’d heard (just rumor from my ex-husband here, I don’t know the facts) that she was even worse at paying the child support on a son that was given to her husband (they have since become divorced, obviously). Since the birth of their daughter they have moved around 20 times in and out of 2 different states.

Anyway, to make that long story shorter…he told me the last time that he came to see our child (in December) that he wanted me to tell him when her spring break was. I told him last night when her break was going to be and he said he couldn’t come into town because he was moving, again. Guess I’m a bit confused about that one. He has his 2 year old there but he can’t take care of his 10 year old? I really don’t understand his reasoning and I would like to.  I would think that the 10 year old would want to help watch the 2 year old so he and his wife could move. Then again, what would I know. I’ve only had 2 kids for 10 years [1 of those years I had 4 kids including his 2 from his 1st marriage (I should explain that a bit…he marriage a woman that was already pregnant whom I was ‘friends’ with then we married. Then he got with a woman when we were still together and eventually married her. Now he is on wife #4)]. Man, I ain’t never getting married again. I will live with my future partner for the rest of our lives. I am not going through that ever again. I’ve been married twice. The first time was hell. The second time, I really, truly loved him and to be treated the way he treated me by running around on me all the time, I just couldn’t do it anymore. It hurt to leave but it hurt more to stay.

Anyway, enough of my complaining. Sorry you had to witness that but I thank you for reading it.

Go out and make it a great day!

Christian